I recently got the chance to asked a good friend of mine about some things that’s been bothering my mind for the last few months. No doubt asking him about this kind of stuff since for me his one of the few good men that you can rely on serious talks with sense. He was acutally on a hotseat in one of the forums where I am actively participating. Intentionally wants to know this silent friend more but it turned upside down. I just want to hear his thought about “my issue”. Well atleast, aside from hearing his thought on “this stuff”, it’s also getting to know him deeper and i admired his honesty and manly answers to this question. A kind of guy who surely knows how to love and respect a woman. Here’s our piece of conversation through private messages…
What would you do if you have a girl na friend and you suddenly realized you like her? Would you take your chances, will you take the risk or just sit back and relax?
-honestly, I will sum up all my courage and tell her about what I really feel for her, because for us guys being in that case means we’re in a lot of pressure that’s why it’s so hard whether to tell her or not. there’s this “guy thing” w/c somehow tells us that courting your girl friend doesn’t seem right and somehow that “thing” is what keeps us guys from telling the girl that we like them; and the friendship we have means so much to us guys that we won’t risk the chance of ruining it.
In line of that situation. How will you react if that friend of yours started dating or seeing other guys? Will you react violently? will you be mad at her? or will you be man enough to accept and RESPECT the girl’s feeling?
-this wil be the consequence if we won’t act right away. na kinakatakutan namin. it will be hard for me to see her going out with someone and IMO this is a critical point where we decide if we should go on or just give up because she’s happy going out and our mind is full of doubts which is reaaally hard to ignore. there’s absolutely no reason to get mad at her, we know it’s our fault not telling her about our feelings earlier. at this point I myself don’t know what should I do, but still telling her the truth seems awkward or something, but it still counts on the girl’s side IF she has a thing for the guy too.
If you and your girl na friend were kept being teased about your closeness (or probably they know the feelings to that friend), will you stop them or just let them tease you both to the point that you can’t no longer talk to each other and slowly building a wall to your closeness?
-hmm…let them tease all they want, they’ll get fed up with it and eventually stop the teasing and if they really are my friends they will respect my word; also telling them to take the teasing down will help because even if it’s ok for me, doesn’t mean the same for the girl, she’ll feel awkward with that constant teasing even if its not directed at her, that it could affect their closeness or communication
If you know or heard a very close friend of yours backstabbing the girl you like, how will you handled that situation?
-I’ll talk to them directly and ask why are they doing it and verify what was the backstabbing all about, not in a rude way of course. plus I’d tell the girl I like to as much a possible try to avoid talking about her life (personal or not)/problems etc, that the backstabber may use, that way they’ll end up making stories about her w/c won’t do any good to their status. oh btw, have been to those sitatuation mentioned above before? -except for the first one, yes and that’s what I did. not the exact thing though but pretty close, this is what I’ve learned from it.
Thanks..i need a very honest and sensible opinion/answer from a very honest and sensible person like you . And of course coming from someone like you, your opinion/answer will be very highly appreciated…
*sorry if my answers are a bit off or way off the question. I myself honestly don’t know much about these things, I just said what I know and can do about these cases. — whoooh! grabe natuyo utak ko dun, umaga ko nabasa yung PM tapos ngayon ko lang natapos yung reply. I hope these answers/opinion could somehow help you.* Well, my dear friend, you somehow helped and enlightened me. Hope to hear more of your thoughts. More deep conversation that’s outside the fantasy were both playing. Thanks MJLR